It is that time of year again. Most students are studying hard as their first round of tests are coming due. Many parents are believing that this year their child will finally get it together and come out on top with the grades that they know that they can achieve. However, deep inside both parents and kids realize that it will take more than just staring at the book to make that perfect grade.
I found it very insightful when working with one of my college students this week. He shared that his procrastination was the main reason he was having a hard time. The distractions coming from roommates, video games, friends asking him to play a game of pick-up basketball were at the foundation of his past and present failures. It may feel that way to him, but in fact there are other tools that can control the procrastination bug.
1. Try to notice what is happening emotionally when you sense that procrastination is taking over.
Is there a sense of dread that is taking over? If so, take a deep breath and realize that your brain is seeking more stimuli to boost your neurotransmitters. Realizing that, move forward quickly knowing that that sense of dread does not have to define your next move.
2. Next, outline, in sequence, what needs to take place to complete the task.
3. Lastly, take each step and as it is completed realize that you can overcome this procrastination.
When these simple steps are taken, then it is possible to move forward toward success in the academic world.
When it comes to studying for tests it is important to remember that no one has ever taught anyone how to study. Parents usually tell their kids to simply go to their rooms and study. For the ADHD student that really means go and look at your book, then look at the phone to see if their are any messages, check Facebook or any other social network. After that then rotate back to look at that book. Tests will not become a strength until the study skills are directly taught to this population. So thinking that this is a motivational problem is a great mistake. It is a neurological problem where parents and teachers must realize that this task must be taught early in a child’s academic career.
When parents attend their child’s conference remember that if you are in a traditional setting that most teachers will not be equipped to teach this population. This will require patients on the parents part. Go easy on the teachers. If there seems to be a lack of understanding from your perspective don’t fuss with the school. Find a good Certified Academic Language Therapist to help both you and your family maneuver through the world of learning differences.
If you have any questions feel free to email me.